21 May 2019

The Military Industrial Complex and Iran

"Trump says the military industrial complex is pressuring him into a war with Iran."  This was a headline on an article a friend shared, today.  My comment, with a few edits here for clarity, was:
I can buy that, actually. In fact that is the good and bad of President Trump's fickle opinions and what he supports and does not support. He seems to listen to input, which is good, then bases opinions on who gets the most access time and puts the most pressure on him.

That results in a whole lot more bad than good - too much turning around of past legislation and too much conflict of interest in people he appoints, then boots out of those positions, apparently  so he can reappoint others to government positions. It looks like the appointments are intended to reward his cronies rather than to benefit we, the people.

And if Trump wants to be honest he needs to state that the political zionist machine is also pressuring him to attack another of Israel's neighbors, indirectly, through our military industrial complex, and the illegal Israel lobbies representing the wishes of a foreign nation, and more directly when possible - his son-in-law comes to mind.
But there is more than that brief comment which also  needs to be said.

Our President also needs to know and acknowledge that Israel is exacerbating the problem of Iran, primarily for Israel's benefit, simply because Iran is a powerful nearby Muslim nation as a neighbor of Israel. It is also apparent that Israel is taking opportunistic advantage of the fact that Iran, as a Shiite nation, wants to take Saudi Arabia's place in controlling Mecca (at least controlling Haj and Mecca during Haj); and opportunistic advantage of Iran's desire to be recognized as head of the real Caliphate which is the position of the Saudi king.  Iran's past attacks on Mecca have clearly demonstrated its intent.  As clearly, that Saudi Arabia considers the stakes to be too high for Iran to be a nuclear nation, is understandable, particularly when considering Israel is a nuclear nation, and also nearby. 

A regional Saudi/Israel "friendship" benefits SA's regional interests far more than it benefits U.S.A.'s  Thus Saudi Arabia gets what it wants when Israel manipulates U.S.A. policies.   Israel could do worse than having Saudi Arabia for a "protector", in some ways, especially  when some of Israel's and SAs political interests are the same.  To bad U.S.A. can not be objective enough to truly understand the lay of the land - which seems to primarily be "speak softly and carry a big stick".  U.S.A. is the "big stick" because it is foolish enough to dedicate funds to "policing the world", based on the prolific false flattery of being "the most powerful free nation" in the world since the end of WWII.  Saudi Arabia speaks softly to the U.S.A., and Israel rattles U.S.A.s cage. 

To some extent during economic recovery after WWII when it was recognized U.S.S.R was intending to be a threat, at the start of the Cold War, the flattery regarding  power of the U.S.A.  at the time may not have been as much of a total exaggeration.  But after the U.S. declared the Cold War to be over and done because of the Berlin wall coming down and Russia feeling confident enough about the U.S.S.R satellite nations being allies to disband the U.S.S.R., then  the false flattery continued greasing the wheels that  encouraged the resulting vacuous attitude and "policing" behavior of U.S.A.  It has become become a serious problem for we, the people, which results in U.S.A. dedicating over half of the annual budget to active conflict elsewhere in the world at the bidding of those who ask - in the guise of "policing the world".  No doubt there are perks of some type offered when being asked.  But the false flattery, alone, is likely still a powerful motivator, unfortunately.

Saudi Arabia is well aware the U.S. is far more apt to consider Israel's problems to be an issue the U.S.A. is willing to fight for, than it is apt to be concerned about what it would relegate to being Saudi Arabia's Islamic religious issues given news reports that Saudi Arabia is considered to be terrorist inclined.  However,  the Saudi King is concerned about and responsible for the Ummah, especially during Haj, and in the case of Iran concerned for the security of his nation, as well.  And Saudi Arabia is not foolish enough to ignore the opportunity of U.S.A.s  willingness to do Israel's bidding.

Understanding that should solve what is a mystery to some about the "friendship" between Israel and Saudi Arabia.  And it must be noted that it is at cost to continuing death of and violence targeting Palestinians in oPT, and destruction of their livelihoods and homes.  Though many would like to consider Palestine and Palestinians irrelevant to these issues, the fact is the negotiations about the partition of Palestine which the political zionists tried to put an end to when declaring Israel a nation, is very much at the center of almost all of the political issues in the Middle East since that time.  Palestinians will continue to be targeted for death and destruction by the political zionist government of Israel as long as no other nations are preventing the government of Israel's long, slow, drawn-out over 70 year genocide of Palestinians who live on the land Israel wants without them on it.  Nothing could be simpler to understand, yet nothing has consistently created more political turmoil during my life, up to the point of here and now.

That "mystery" is only part of Israel's motivation because its intent has been to harass all the nearby Muslim nations, which grew into attacking Islam and Muslims in general.  That effort increased by taking opportunistic advantage of 9/11 to put pressure on U.S.A. when it was ready and  eager to comply, because of understandably  being in retributive mode.  However  our government should be more self-disciplined about not taking action when in retributive mode, instead of being driven by emotions in the same way that any "crime of passion" is driven, especially when being encouraged to take ill-advised action in the heat of the moment.

It was not understandable that the U.S.A. did not have the foresight to refrain from depending on faulty "intelligence" (originating from Israel) which was used as justification to start engaging in active conflict against Iraq after the announced "War on Terror".  The only reason Israel has been able to push the anti-Muslim anti-Islam  agenda so far for so long is because U.S.A. enables Israel's agenda, including unconditionally enabling Israel's agendas long before 9/11.  And the anti-Muslim agenda feeds into the government of Israel's deadly determination to claim all of Palestine for Israel.  The political zionist machine never actually wanted to be a state in the nation of Palestine, even partitioned into a Jewish only state.  The intent always was to claim all of Palestine as Israel.

Am I blaming everything on Israel and its political ideology of zionism? Of course not.  But is is a much larger part of all the Middle East conflicts than most are willing to realize, or as the case may be, to admit because it serves their purposed not to. With Israel is where a lot of the ignored actual blame, safely (unfortunately), resides.  However I am blaming many  of our most damaging (domestic and foreign) U.S.A. politics, especially middle east policies and active conflict, on the foreign manipulation of our policies which is not only Israel's doing.  Because that is the truth of the matters. Understand Israel strategies and tactics and it becomes clear the origin of it's first and strongest supporter at the end of WWII, even as far back as the pogroms, actually.  That a huge number of people know this, and have advised our elected and appointed officials about it, is a euphemistic "mystery". 

I happen to have been paying attention for a long time, so I speak up because I know more about these Israel/Palestine issues and their history than many other issues because of it being a focus of my research from college and university days which started with a question that arose about controlled news (by government)  at the start of the 1967 Six Days War.  The media response was so incredulous, as if there was no knowledge any problem existed which could have precipitate the war, that it was impossible to not consider the hypothesis of news being controlled.  And that has something to do with the fact that I had been informed the war was pending and soon to start by a Palestinian woman I never did meet whose family had escaped as refugees to Jordan in 1948.  As a 19 year old college freshman and journalism student at the time, the incongruity of me knowing this - and the media being unaware - simply did not compute correctly.

The point is that it is a huge mistake for Congress, and we, the people, to not recognize any other foreign nation's agenda, particularly Israel's middle east agenda regarding neighboring Muslim nations, which overly influences Congress; especially the nature of that "influence" through heavily funded "Israel first" lobbies which have been actively interfering with U.S. elections and political policies, increasingly so since 1948, along with extortion and skillful hasbara/propaganda designed for public consumption very actively since 1967.  Lobbies representing foreign nations are illegal.  And, yes, court cases have been won that focus on lobbies and lobbiests who represent foreign nations but did not register, as required, as foreign agents or lobbyists who were acting on behalf of a foreign principal.  Even so,  the violations of the Foreign Agents Registration Act (FARA) continues to occur.  Anyone interested in consulting with and advising elected and appointed government officials about the problem might want to refresh their knowledge of FARA.  The Foreign Lobby Watch about FARA at the Center for Responsive Politics is a good place to start.

Americans who are informed and know the deal are tired of wondering and asking if appointed and elected American government officials are as totally ignorant and lacking in knowledge as it seems, or, if they truly are, collectively, so ill-intended and corrupt that they allow their opinions to be swayed by foreign agents lining their pockets with perks and/or threats to prevent their reelection.  I do not want to think it is wide spread corruption as much as it is conveniently wearing blinders when it comes to anything that Israel demands of the U.S.A., directly and through it's lobbies.  But there comes a point when ignoring issues that can not be ignored, because of the extensive damage they do, becomes a matter of being corrupt. And that was reached, decades ago. 

Sometimes something obviously connected to the political zionist influence issue arises which might lead to questions that get too close to the comfort zone of elected and appointed government officials.  Then, strangely enough, there are efforts to redirect the attention of we, the people, to what are sometimes unnecessary bizarre manufactured problems.  We can be assured that the intent is to draw our attention away from more pressing issues which often are associated with what our nation is pressured to do.  This question of incompetence or ill-intent becomes more pertinent when there is an ambitious effort to redirect and refocus our attention.

Case in point, currently, the abortion issue which never should have been an issue - ever.  And of course it is an attack on Roe v. Wade, and of course it never should have been an issue which even required Roe v. Wade way back when.  The actual issue, originally, was about federal funds being used for abortions.  And look at what it morphed into.  We should all realize by this time that abortion is always a hot button issue that is dragged out to be used to redirect the attention of we, the people, at opportunistic times.  We can be confident that each time it comes up, it is primarily intended to redirect the attention of we, the people, away from more pressing issues - as if trying to make it illegal for women to make their own decisions - especially about their own bodies - is not pressing enough.  It is supposed to be redirecting us from the real issue which is about U.S. being pressured to engage in armed conflict with Iran.

21 April 2019

You Are Loved

I feel compelled to say this, today, to those who most need to be acknowledged.  I know your experience with evil in your past lead to the strength you developed which lead to doing battle with evil and overcoming it;  and being able to continue to do so whenever it tries to retake control. 

Because you chose love, not revenge and retribution, your spiritual evolution is a blessing to you.  Getting to that point can be a difficult choice each time it is necessary to do so, especially the first time -  but you succeeded.  And through the work you do in life your choice is a blessing to everyone in your life as it enables others to more easily spiritually evolve. 

Your spiritual evolution is an empowering inspiration to all with whom you come in contact, especially family and friends, but also including those who have found themselves on a similar path in life even though the environments in which this occurred has been different for each.  The work is easier and more fulfilling when done together;  because there will be more battles and the value of not doing battle alone will increase as our appreciation increases for those we encounter along the way who are also successfully fighting similar battles against the same evil.

Those who have repeatedly won spiritual battles alone, highly value those in their lives whose natural inclination is to battle similar evil in similar ways, no matter what disguise the evil wears - and it will always try to fool with a disguise.  We are all stronger and more adept when doing  battle, together.  The differences so many like to make a problem of are only superficial, even though these differences occur because of the environments in which we live due to  the attachments we have in life which are not superficial.  With levity, because levity is actually a dimension of spiritual evolution, I have to say:  may the force be with you - live long and prosper.

Inspiration and Empowerment

I have  known the difference between the blessing of a walk-in and an intended possession by evil since before age 2 1/2.  I will not go into how and why here.  But I have known the difference nearly my entire life.  That means I have understood for nearly my entire life that we all need empowerment and inspiration from one another to be able to rise about the limits and obstructions of those to whom we are attached in life; those who we allow to create obstructions and limits in our lives when it is not possible for us to simply walk away.  Some of us did need to walk away, eventually, to be able to survive and be who we are.  It is never easy, particularly when it is familial evil in the form of damaging bad habits considered "traditional" family traits which we must walk away from when they are still accommodated by some in the immediate and extended family who are determined to superimpose generations of unacceptable damaging "family ways" onto our lives also. 

How can those who host evil actually spiritually evolve as long as they are willing to host the evil?  That is the question.  They tolerate the evil but want to blame its presence on those who were designated within extended family as “scapegoats” to be made responsible for hosting the negativity the evil creates, to which those who do the scapegoating are addicted.  Such people do not always know the damage they are doing.  But that is evil’s way and those who choose to host evil project the harm it does onto others in an effort to blame them, instead, for its presence.  That is not spiritual evolution.  And it requires walking away, even when it is from those close to us because the evil they refuse to deny leads them to who want to limit and obstruct our spiritual evolution, imagining it improves their own lives to do so as they punishingly cling to damaging family "tradition". 

Why?  Those intentionally difficult people in our lives seem to imagine that if they recognize we are spiritually evolving it will result in value they too want to claim.  In the less spiritually evolved it will take the form of them wanting to be competitive and possessive and controlling of us, viciously so in some cases. They seem to want to feel left behind as they observe that we are making progress.  But that ongoing reaction eventually results in the need to leave them behind because they  become thoughtlessly demanding and  controlling of our availability which interferes with our work and with us being available to them as we are able to be. 

Thing is we all work within the environments in which we place ourselves, so how we earn our ways forward in life  will differ.  As such, observing progress of others, especially those closest like family, unfortunately, invites from the less evolved, envy, jealousy, greed, narcissistic control issues - even when they are able to observe that we are working hard to achieve progress despite the many obstacles they have worked hard to create for us because they see us succeeding.  Thus, for some of us it truly is also better for those folks for us to walk away from their presence, influence, and efforts to control our lives.  Because, as long as that is what is evoked in them by our presence in their lives, they will not evolve.  And they will also want to continue to hold back those who they allow to evoke that in their lives, feeling justified because that is how the family has always functioned.  

Why? They can not stop blaming the evil they experience on the previously  designated family scapegoats, never having questioned or known that those who made those designations in earlier generations were possessed of the familial evil when they did so.  We have already said no to that evil and will not stop doing so. By walking away we refuse to accommodate those who willingly accept that evil, and their efforts to superimpose it on us including indirectly when they do not actually know that is what they do by accommodating familial evil as "tradition".

Acknowledged and Started the Battle Does Not End

We must all do battle against evil together.  However those who do not recognize it as such, instead accommodate and host it and want to require us to do so, also.  That requires those of us who do not accommodate it to take our leaves of those who do if we are not to limit their spiritual evolution by being available to them in their lives; which, if we do not leave is also a choice to allow them to continue to limit our evolution too - becoming a vicious downward spiral  of blame which accommodates the familial evil, both directly and indirectly.

Leaving does not mean we will refuse to welcome those we have had to walk away from in our lives when/if they are ready to evolve beyond hosting the evil we refuse to accommodate as the “cost” of the connection family and some friends want to demand of us if we are to be part of their lives.  Those connections simply can not actively exist without harm resulting as long as some want to accommodate the evil some of us refuse to accommodate.

To those who are not ready to rise above the evil - you are loved.  To those who have risen above it and continue to refuse to accommodate it you are loved, trusted, and respected.  To those who are knowingly working at rising above it, you are loved and respected.  Be inspired as you encounter and are motivated by those you recognize as having gone before you - and welcome to the reality of mutual battle against evil.  Once you survive doing it entirely alone the first time except for your divine connection, future efforts will not feel as isolating. 

There will always be battles against the evil you have chosen to deny.  However, the plateaus we reach, increasingly together with other souls we recognize as similarly evolving, will be less potentially damaging along the way because of actually knowing numerous others are on a similar journey toward the same destinations, as we each continue to find ourselves in additional dimensions further along the way on our journeys of spiritual evolution.

14 April 2019

Are Men Afraid of the #metoo Movement?

Talk about an assumed attitude of privilege which also embraces ageism!  On a news program, today, a young woman was saying one of the negative side-effects of the #metoo movement was that men no longer feel comfortable around young women.  Really?  Really!  I mean Really?!  All I could think was are you sure you don’t want to rethink and reword that comment?

I agree that the
#metoo movement has an effect of  making some men uncomfortable because of fearing they could be falsely accused.  Men, in general, do not deserve to have to be fearful because of those in their ranks who are violators, especially those who are serial offenders.  But woman, in general, also do not deserve to be in fear of being attacked by men, because when they do report violations they are not believed so those who violate get away with violating instead of being apprehended. 

The problem is with dishonesty, and an unwillingness and inability to discern what is and is not factual - to the point of denial which results in a lack of thorough investigation.  The only people who do not invite investigation are the violators and those who enable them.  That is a truism.

It is the men violating who are at the foundation of the fear some men have of being dishonestly accused, not the  woman who  have chosen to report violations and expect to be believed to the point of an investigation being mandatory because of reporting the violation.   If there was not so much refusal to believe woman and investigate the violations they report, then there would not be so much fear in men who are not violators. 

And what about men who may not be sure about whether or not they have been considered violators? Well, wondering, alone, makes a statement.  If a man makes an effort to contact someone he may need to find clarity from, then it is a statement which is an indicator of decency, as long as the intention for contact is not intended to be obnoxious and threatening.

Clearly, the refusal to believe woman is associated with the high numbers of violators, and repeat offenders in particular, who  have the power of influencing others to the point that others choose the corruption of enabling the violators and their offenses.  So it is understandable there has been an increase in some  men fearing they could be unjustly accused.  I think that fear is likely to be directly proportional to the amount of women who are unjustly accused simply because they are not believed and their claims are not properly investigated when they do report violations.

The way to minimize fear is for thorough, objective, investigations which are never subject to the corruption of threats and/or  pay-off by violators who claim their careers and lives will be ruined when they are held accountable.  They, and apparently, the mores of our society have been buying into not ruining the lives of violators, and instead condoning the ruining of the lives of those who were violated. 

And of course it must be stated that some boys and men have been violated, and that some people have been violated by same sex violators. I
t also must be stated that #metoo is not only about sexual assault, rape, unwelcome touching and sexual innuendo in the workplace, but that it is also about harassment of all types in the workplace and everywhere else. 

However,  the issue is about reporting violations which are not believed and not investigated which  becomes a situation that precipitates the fear of  being unjustly accused because of not being believed, and adequate investigation being withheld.  It is the conundrum  of a stereotypical "vicious circle".  In reality logic tells us that the problem is disbelief, and that the only way to alleviate that is to investigate claims until all the facts make evident exactly what happened.  It really is that simple.

What I do not agree with, and what stinks of privilege and ageism in a young woman "of a certain age" who is clearly old enough to know better, is that she said men do not feel comfortable around “young women” - as if older women invited violation, or acquiesced to and wanted to be violated in their younger years - as if they are not still considered potential targets of violation along with anyone else violators want to violate and believe they can get away with violating. 

If it would not come across as sexism and ageism I might say that perhaps part of the problem of fear is actually the attitude of righteous privilege which some young and not so young woman want to assume - those who have not learned the wisdom of extending forgiveness to individuals who give them the opportunity to do so.  When in doubt, extending that opportunity is always the correct choice and the only one which will alleviate fear.

10 April 2019

Prosecute the Scoundrels to the Full Extent of the Law

What is wrong with this damned state of New Mexico, and this damned city of Albuquerque, which together refuse to stop children from being brutally killed by those who are supposed to care!!!!  There has to be an end to it.  I can not believe there are people in the lives of the children and the adults responsible for being their parents or guardians, who  have not realized there are dangers for the children and reported the huge red flags indicative of those dangers!!! 

In fact, if news reports are accurate, I know the dangers have been reported, even several times in some cases, and that either law enforcement, or the social agencies which are supposed to handle such problems, often both, have failed to respond appropriately to the warnings of wrong-doing!  There must to be an end to accommodating the evil of ill-intended bottomless hate and incompetency, together, that is the cause. An end!!  Anyone who makes a decision to allow children to stay in dangerous homes or puts them in the care of those who should not be trusted with their care, is wrong to criminal extent. 

It is past time those responsible for not responding appropriately are removed from their jobs, and apprehended for their crimes of willful neglect which encouraged and enabled the continuing perpetration of the crimes.  They are accomplices who enable the continuing intolerable abuse resulting - predictably resulting - in the deaths of children.  Fact is the same happens to adults in danger - but this is primarily about how and why young children end up in environments which result in them being killed.



There is an underlying issue which can be preventative, and that is birth control.  However some people are so obsessed with preventing abortion they can not see past the noses on their faces to recognize that birth control is the answer to preventing later crimes, even  if that form of birth control must sometimes be abortion in the early stages of pregnancy.  Instead those people want to create policy that forces child-bearing, which then results in young children  being killed by those who are supposed to care, but never did. 

Yes, birth control to include the extreme of abortion, is an  impossibly difficult choice for people who want to accommodate superimposed religious control in their lives instead of their own common sense when it comes to choices they have the foresight to know will do the least possible harm all the way around.  But people are able to come to terms with the choices they make.  The problem is the hypocritical politicians who want to try to create  cognitive dissonance in individuals, and at a societal level.  They are the worst perpetrators when they try to redirect political attention to personal issues which can not and should not be legislated based on superimposed religious beliefs of specified religions.  That effort is  unconstitutional,
actually i.e. the superimposing of beliefs associated with specified religions. 

Family Planning Is a Personal Matter Not a Legislative Matter

For example, and please correct me if I am wrong, but I know of no Bible verses which say birth control is not permissible.  As I recall, be fruitful and multiply  is advised.  I did say advised not dictated because my personal view of religion is that it is advisement not dictatorial governing which tries to deny and discredit one's own divine connection and ability to discern guidance from it.  Most reasonable people have a similar perspective which is why the conditions associated with being fruitful and multiplying are a personal choice for true believers.

llow me to point out that be fruitful and multiply prolifically like rabbits do, is not what is advised in the Bible. I take that to mean that reasonable and responsible people can be trusted to plan the amount of fruitfulness they can accommodate and when they are prepared to start being responsibly fruitful.  This is an example of religion concerning itself with birth control as a tacked-on people-made dictate of religion which really is not a tenet of religion, is it.  As such, neither birth control nor abortion are included in sacred religious texts.  It is not as if either was unknown and unpracticed in time and place.  They simply are not addressed in religious texts.

It is not my job to tell people what to believe.  But it is the job of all of us to prevent the superimposition of the tenets of any specified religions in the form of efforts to legislate policies dictated by people-made tacked on interpretation to specified religions which some buy into, personally.  Family planning needs to remain at the personal level - not be superimposed as unconstitutional national policy.  When all is said and done birth control is about family planning. 
And family planning is a personal choice and responsibility in which policies demanding forced births have no place.

Irresponsible Family Planning and Killing of Young Children Are Connected

Morality and kindness can not be legislated.  They are personal choices.  We all know this.  It is not new information.  The extent to which individuals choose religion(s) to inform morality and kindness is also a personal choice - not a choice for politicians to try to make for we, the people, then try to superimpose with unconstitutional policy-making.  Of course this can be said about all issues which is why it is the job of we, the people, to remain vigilant about policies our elected and appointed government officials want to legislate - so that we can do our jobs of advising those who represent us, of our wishes.

When it is about the connection between preventing birth control and the killing of young children, if a specified religion really was that important to those individuals who want to use religion to make political issues out of choices individuals must make about responsible family planning because of personal necessity, then there would not be pregnancies in the first place would there - unless pregnancy was a result of rape, or failed birth control.  For someone else, especially politicians, to try to pick and choose what is and is not acceptable about the dictates of any specified religion, then to try to superimpose that as policy, is the height of intolerable hypocrisy - as well as unconstitutionality. 

That is the environment in which abortion as an extreme form of family planning is being politicized when family planning should not even be a political issue - unless it is to limit the number of children a couple is allowed to have, like China successfully did, as a way to handle the problems of overpopulation.  Genocidally neglecting vulnerable populations is not an appropriate way to handle overpopulation.  Neither is a national budget that dedicates more than half of the available resources to defense.  Yes, that pertains, because redirecting funds away from domestic needs highly contributes to the problems we experience that exacerbate over-population because of the reduction of needed available resources.

Religion as a Legislative Motivator

When intentional confusion is created about any religion based on a variety of different people-made interpretations tacked onto the sacred texts of religions through the years, then people either buy into the religious belief or they do not.  True believers do not decide to do and not do some things because of the slavish codification of later interpretation by people into what become dictates to, and in some cases corruptors  of a religion.  They do not misconstrue actual teachings about attitude and behavior, i.e.  morality issues, associated with the shared wisdom within sacred texts of the ways in which people can successfully peacefully coexist with one another.  

Let us not be coy.  Every reasonable adult who is literate is capable of understanding religious texts and interpreting them for oneself, and does so, no matter who does and does not approve.  Why else would there be so many folks who identify as a specific religion, but do not appear to actively practice the religion,  or to frequently  participate in the religious community except to socialize or unless they have children and need religious community to reinforce the values they are teaching their children? For some, religious beliefs are at the foundation of  spiritual evolution rather than primarily a competition associated with piety that is intended to be demonstrated to the religious community.  I mean really.  Those in the clergy
with whom I am acquainted, associated with several religions and subdivisions within religions, are much more authentic people than a good number of the followers of the religion.  They simply do not have cause for concern about how pious they are perceived to be by others.

Given reality, legislators have no business trying to superimpose as policy what any specific religion dictates - what is and is not a violation according to a specified religion's tenets.  And they also have no business trying to selectively make some tenets of a specified religion into  political issues but not other tenets, particularly when the ones they want to legislate are based on religious morality which is dependent on the ones they do not want to legislate.  It is simply not done to attempt to superimpose the interpretation of sacred texts of any specified religion
onto everyone through legislation - IF one is  a decent person who supports and defends our constitution.  It really is that simple.

Since the initial existence of all religions, they have been subject to having been politicized based on a variety of tacked on people- made interpretations associated with oral tradition and/or recognized sacred texts and beliefs.  And that type of confusion resulting in convoluted
cognitive dissonance associated with religious beliefs, is a major reason why our founders decided on it not being allowable for government to specify a national religion.  By extension that decision is intended to protect government from religion, and religion from government, and we, the people, from superimposed politicized religious beliefs that are not our own. 

Birth Control/Abortion Issues Target the Rights of Single Woman

Consider, for example, if the religion whose tenets you want legislators to superimpose as legislation specifies marriage as a prerequisite to creating children, then you can not ignore the prerequisite of marriage and try to legislate family planning as being disassociated from that prerequisite, without creating a hypocritical double standard because of politically choosing what is and is not enforceable as a religious tenet.  Fact is it should be a moot point because superimposing religious tenets is unconstitutional.  But that has not stopped legislators from trying to superimpose a tenet of a specified religion associated with the part of family planning that is about scheduling children i.e. birth control, including the extreme of abortion when necessary.  So this is not a foolish comment I make about legislators wanting to superimpose selective religious tenets they buy into while ignoring prerequisite tenets.

Fact is that any legislation associated with birth control, including the extreme of abortion is intended to interfere with the unmarried single woman's right to family planning.  It puts all responsibility on the single women who become pregnant, by trying to religiously guilt trip them and  force them to give birth without being married, even when their family plan does not include being a single parent.  In other words it takes male responsibility out of the equation even though both a male and a female are required to create a life.  If this does not make sense yet, then stay with me because it will.  But first do not try to make this into an
LGBTQ gender issue or a technology issue, because it is neither.  It is about making pregnancy solely an individual woman's responsibility and/or punishment when in fact it is a couples issue and choice even if half of the couple is irresponsible and not part of making decisions about family  planning. 

Why do I say single women are targeted by birth control and abortion legislation?  Because legislation of birth control is a moot point when it comes to married couples and simply not subject to legislation, marriage being considered sacrosanct, which means among other things that family planning within a marriage is not subject to the judgment of others.  So the fact is that birth control/abortion legislation is intended to prevent a  single woman from the right to schedule family planning, thus is a violation primarily of the rights of a single women.   A woman has a right to choose to bear children within a marriage rather than to be forced to bear children outside of a marriage.

Anyone who has ever been around children knows they deserve two parents who love one another, and who actually have planned for and want to give birth to and/or raise children together.  A woman has a right to plan family around a prerequisite of marriage.  And she also has a right to prioritize marriage so that she is not forced into marriage before she has prepared herself for marriage.  That often means education and career are priorities for young single women because following one's heart brings all that is good and right into one's life whatever that may be.  That is a concept associated with Spiritual Evolution 101.  However the troubles some folks cause because they do not even make it that far with their spiritual evolution by recognizing that is part of everyone else's spiritual evolution, also, are mind-boggling.  When it is meant to be, marriages happen when
purposely harassing obstacles are not used to redirect and demand the attention and resources of individuals who are seeking and reaching the goals which enable them to serve their purposes in life.  That is true synchronicity which manipulated coincidences can not successfully masquerade as, no matter how clever and far-reaching the manipulation is.

At issue is, that if legislators want to concern themselves with family planning then they need to stop being concerned about connecting religious morality to
birth control and abortion, just like they stopped associating religious morality with the LGBTQ issues - which actually should have been a harder sell than abortion given what is and is not stated in religious texts.  As such that is an indicator of how politicized family planning has become which focuses primarily on abortion and the foundation it rests on of specified religious belief that does not condone  birth control.  If legislators continue to want to be intent on regulating family planning, then they need to legislate mandatory preliminary conditions associated with child birth which are best for a couple and the children.  That would be marriage, economic stability which affords necessities and the cost of raising  children, plus agreement on when to start fitting into their lives, together, the creation of their own family, and how many children  can realistically be provide with the quality of life they deserve. 

In other words birth control and abortion are total non-issues when legislators focus on the requirements necessary for family planning and stop trying to make hot-button political issues out to birth control and abortion for single women who do not choose to raise children outside of marriage, or to have their priorities co opted by an unwanted marriage and/or an unplanned pregnancy.  Society has moved on from the 50's/60's forced-marriage-after-pregnancy-occurs problem so it is high time for legislators to move beyond it also and stop trying to victimize single women as if they alone are responsible for unplanned pregnancies and need to be prevented from making the best decisions for themselves and their future families.

The Environment in Which Young Children Are Killed

Let me be very clear.  It is not acceptable to apply the tenets of any religion in an effort to  legislate personal choice - in this case birth control, including early term abortion, because so many unwanted children end up dead when both birth control and abortion are legislated against.  Yes, that is directly related to the killing of young children.  And anyone who does not understand how targeting single women as intended victims of marriage with someone they do not want to marry, and targeting them as victims of unplanned childbirth, can and does highly contribute to the killing of young children, is neither paying attention nor thinking clearly. 

The social welfare system can not and does not provide all that is required to safely and successfully raise children as a single parent.  Sure some single parents can do it because of their already formulated good character, determination, drive, self discipline, even though they do not have training which allows them to do the work they would like to do.  And some single parents have an education and are working in a field that is fulfilling and includes a livable income which does not require them to depend entirely on social services to meet the needs of their families.  But what about those single and married women who were totally unprepared to become parents, then  become dysfunctional, perhaps
were surrounded by people not good for them, and/or resorted to drugs, prostitution, theft, cheating the welfare system, and anything they could do to escape from that dimension of desperation, pain, and revulsion their lives had become?  That is the environment into which children are born who too frequently are abused and exploited until they end up dead.  It must stop. The first line of defense which can prevent the deaths of young children is effective birth control, including the extreme method of abortion when necessary.

Women have the right to avoid co-opting their life plans instead of being forced by circumstances they did not create to unexpectedly become single mothers who are dependent on welfare.  They have the right to not be  forced into marriage with someone they do not want to marry. 

The young children who are killed are a symptom of all that I have addressed and more.  But they also are a direct result of the negligence of those who could have prevented the deaths, but instead enabled them and are not being held accountable and prosecuted for what can only be understood as a combination of collective willful negligence and incompetency. 

God help us all if those same people in law enforcement and social services have been lead to believe they are protected  because of abiding by superimposed unwritten s.o.p. they must accommodate as a condition of keeping their jobs.

05 April 2019

A.I. Nightmares

I read an article today citing Sputnik International about Swedish scientists,  who want to build robot replicas of dead relatives:  "Would YOU turn your loved one into a robot clone? Swedish scientists are using AI to build androids that are 'fully conscious copies' of dead relatives, report claims".  Yes, Sputnik International, and we all know whose news that is.  No matter.  All media has been on the A.I bandwagon, as of late.  And it is probably going to be THE industry for the young adult generation of today, like IT was for the previous generation.  What else can they do with so many jobs becoming computerized.  Best to get in on the ground floor and create the machines that will do the work people would otherwise have done.  Right?  But this is about far more than that.

AIMy first thought was Wow!  What next! What do the Swedish people think about that!? I really do not want to be someone who "used to like Swedish people".  But common sense quickly came to the rescue. 

It gets worse,
because it is obviously not only "Swedish Scientists" engaged in wanting to merge A.I. with people and to upload minds of the deceased to machines.  The article also says there is a Terrasem Movement Foundation in Vermont working on technology to transfer consciousness of people to computers.  And the article claims Elon Musk's Neuralink company is dedicated to the same.  Anyone not thinking this is headed toward the Borg way of life?

Unregulated Unethical Research

Tell me these are not government funded programs!  Please!  We can only guess how long funds have been funneled into such research through "the black ops budget" which essentially means no oversight and no regulation.

Thing is these unregulated unethical research efforts ordinarily do not make the news until they are actually happening.   Worse is when they are government funded and with no oversight.  And in the past month or so A.I. articles started saturating the news - with nearly fully grown technology except for the absent foresight which includes ethics, regulation, and oversight.  That means there has been a lot of work prior to all the A.I. hype in the press and on the news.  It is no secret Japan and China both have been obsessed with and working on A.I. for much longer.

Recorded and Impersonated

It is clearly all the more reason to e-mail (or text) instead of talk on the phone - particularly when "trapped" with long futile "recorded for training purposes" customer service (CS) calls, isn't it . . .

It has long been known the intent of some scam phone calls is to record one's voice so it can be used by crooks to impersonate.  The only difference with folks who use the "recording for training purposes" disclaimer is that unless you object their recording is legal.  Be that as it may, it does not mean unethical use of the recordings is legal.

And what happens when someone does not agree to the call being recorded and asks to talk to someone who does not need to be recorded "for training purposes"?  My guess is a refusal of service.  I do not know anyone who has ever tried to challenge that unreasonable "request".  Because the request is made in the form of a statement which requires refuting if one objects, a caller would need to make a point of refusing to permit the recording.

One Person's A.I. Heaven Is Another Person's A.I. Hell

When one's life has become a terribly resistant unreasonable facsimile in a false reality (usually known way before the threatening extreme, actually) it is very clear those ass-covering phone call disclaimers about being recorded actually mean those unscrupulous people are selling one's voice to unscrupulous folks who are using it in the way the article reveals - their cloning efforts, biological and/or A.I.  It adds a whole other dimension to "reality check", doesn't it.

The effort the article speaks of is the same as trying to imprison a person's soul in a dimension they have transcended i.e. where they do not belong and should not be. It would be analogous to the way religions describe purgatory and/or hell.

Don't believe it? Apply the scientific method and prove me wrong. I guarantee we need another law to protect individuals (living and dead!) by regulating how recorded phone calls (all recordings actually), photos, and animated videos can NOT be used - guarantee.

31 March 2019

So Many People Love You. Don't Focus on the People Who Don't.

"So many people love you.  Don't focus on the people who don't."   It's great advice - home being where the heart is which is where we need to dwell in life, as much as possible!   And it certainly is not up to others to try to define "home" for anyone else.  As we all evolve spiritually, home - as in parents/siblings/extended family - is not necessarily "home", although some ancestors of these folks, our ancestors also, often are part of what we recognize as home for ourselves - as the path to where the most love we experience and project, leads.  Home becomes a spiritual environment (frequency as we can also say) not necessarily a temporal place.  Although, being in a loved place enhances the spiritual environment, so does bringing love to any environment also enhance it, resulting in it being a loved place.

In addition to great advice, the above comment is also an encouraging "feel good" comment.

Hate Requires Defense

I do not want to be a reality wet-blanket, but I need to point out that as much as we would like to be in that place spiritually, emotionally, and physically (intellectually too) - all the time, or at least as much as possible - personal experience informs us that we can not always focus on only love, simply because of those who hate, because hate does require defense. 

I also need to add a comment in defense of ego which is associated with intellectual processes as a necessary bridge among our spiritual, emotional, and physical aspects.  Ego is not always a narcissistic, psychopathic, evil monster as it is often portrayed.  Discernment and all forms of communication and creativity use ego as a bridge between the necessary well-developed ego as part of love, and the other aspects of oneself. 

EGO and ego

EGO and ego are two entirely different aspects of being.  EGO is damaging to self and others.  At the lowest common denominator environment we find ourselves functioning within at any given time, accessing and using ego is required.  Humanity, collectively, moves forward from the lowest common denominator which is about EGO, and it requires us to properly employ ego (which is never damaging) for the purpose of raising the standard of the lowest common denominator where EGO does cause damage.  Is there a gray area between EGO and ego?  Well, when we focus on love, no.  Being vigilant and identifying what is not love, does not mean we are not focusing on love.  It is a balance guardians/gatekeepers/scouts/way-showers/shamans/healers must master (i.e. skillful control within self) because of work which needs to be accomplished.

People who do not love us are not the problem.  And defense actually is necessary at least from time to time - unless, of course, one is  fortunate enough to always be defended by others, like the sacred guardianship those who love extend to children - and all others, actually.

Be Wary of Ill-intent

The problem is people who are actively exercising ill-intent towards us, you, others. They are within a subgroup of people who do not like us and want to control us, who are within a subgroup of people who do not love us.  So be aware to fend off ill-intent because "ill" actually does means ill.  It is what people with violent hateful attitudes project who want to create environments that kill, instead of outright directly killing and risking being apprehended.  Thus their need to create chaos as a smoke-screen by involving many others in their efforts, others who willingly participate, not necessary knowing the intent.

Perhaps the problem actually is: those who do not love us do not know us! 😅 (This comment is EGO, EGO, EGO humor, actually, in case there is any doubt!)

Humor, notwithstanding, it is advisable to be wary of ill-intent which is always a part of the palpable chaotic hate some project which is very strong no matter how much effort there is to hide it.  When some you know seem to be projecting hate, sometimes they do so unknowingly because of being victims of it.  And unless you know such a person, well, it is not always possible to know the origin of hateful ill-intent plaguing them, which plagues others through them.  We only know they are  desperately in need of help either to fend it off, or as its origin.

Caution!  Hate Becomes Viral

When we know hateful ill-intent is being projected at us, directly or indirectly, we owe it to others as well as to ourselves to trace the hate to origin - always challenging work.  Unfortunately, hate often functions like a rampant communicable disease.   It is rarely personal and often targets those who are innocent of the "reason" hate is being projected, at them and through them to other people.  Neither is defense personal, and in fact it needs to be extensive in the process of zeroing in on the causes of hate.

23 March 2019

No Full transparency? No Consent.

Putting the news on this morning what first drew my attention was the annoying news feed crawler at the bottom of the screen which stated that a Democrat in a city in New Mexico has stated that abortion is about women choosing to get pregnant.  My first thought was do people never stop trying to make that red herring into a political issue.

A Woman's Choice Is Not about Politics

First let’s reformulate that comment to remove politics from it, simply because a woman’s choice about anything in her life is not the subject of party politics - it is about her inalienable rights.  So we will start, instead, with the comment that abortion is about women choosing to get pregnant - forget about "a Democrat in a city in New Mexico" because neither an opinion of a political party nor of a state have any bearing on anyone's inalienable rights.

Lets start out being honest and real.  Do all women think alike about this?  Of course not.  But I guarantee that each women deserves the right to choose instead of having some other person choose for her and so does each man.   After all natural pregnancy requires one of each.  Without expanding on the  comment "abortion is about women choosing to get pregnant", the full meaning and associated requirement of her consent is not communicated.

Let’s also start with stating the fact that sex and birth control are all about choice and consent.  So, other than abortion for health reasons, when there has not been choice, consent, and mutual agreement of both people, then abortion is almost always the last resort a woman has when she has not been part of a discussion that includes her choice, her consent, and her right to have the opportunity to formulate a mutual agreement.

An Unequivocal Statement

Abortion is almost always an  unequivocal statement of there having been an absence of choice and consent on the part of a woman who is  a responsible, honest, law-abiding person, with a purpose in life - other than, or in addition to her biological ability to be a child-bearer who intends to create the family she envisions when she is prepared to do so.

It is a crime, literally, to act on imagining that any woman’s future must require accommodating sexual use and abuse as if she is owned and not due the respect of being asked.  A woman should never be expected to be subject to others' (like family) or any one person's (like a significant other) narcissistic assumption that she has made a choice she has not made.

It is a crime to make a choice for a woman without her consent or knowledge;  a crime for an abuser to make  any effort whatsoever to collude with his and/or her family and friends to plan her future for her without her knowledge and consent.  A woman always needs to be included in a discussion about her future, no matter who imagines they have the right to superimpose their ownership and control onto her future without her knowledge and consent.  When it comes to anyone else imagining they can influence and have control over when and with whom she may or may not choose to bring a soul to life, a woman has a right and is required to be part of a discussion of her future, a discussion which leads to either  mutual agreement or a civilized parting of the ways.

It Is Not Allowable to Assume a Woman’s Consent

What is so difficult about understanding that without full transparency it is not allowable to assume a woman’s consent?  It is a crime to assume consent no matter who is making the assumption and it does not matter who wants to assume  or when they want to make that assumption.  Full transparency and disclosure about what other people want and imagine they have the right to assume they can demand about what they want for a woman, is a requirement upon which a woman’s choice and consent is dependent.   Anything less is unacceptable.  It truly is an easy to understand concept.

Don’t want to respect a woman’s “no“?  Want to force sex without her consent?  Want to cause her death by getting someone pregnant with her soul because she does not accept your ownership of her and your dictating of her choices in life?  Want to dictate a woman’s future without her knowledge and consent, with or without cooperation of her friends and family or anyone else with whom there is collusion to plan her future?  Then you damned well better expect abortion when pregnancy is a result and be happy she stops there instead of putting a death squad into action to rid her life of all parasitic abusers who have wanted to claim and assume ownership of her and her inalienable rights choices.  Obviously it is not only about pregnancy.  It is about a woman's right to make choices for her own life in every way. 

An Easy Concept to Understand

This is some real information about the necessity of required discussions associated with an overly generalized statement of abortion being about women choosing to get pregnant.  Although it is, unstated and most important is the fact that discussions which fully disclose purposes and intention are required, not only so that a woman has the right to consent if she so chooses, but also so that a narcissistic abuser can not later claim having been emotionally damaged by a woman who was been forced to choose abortion because of the narcissistic abuse intended to own her, live her life for her, make her choices for her, all being ill-intended efforts to emotionally damage her, instead. That intent is evident when a woman has not been part of a discussion about her life which requires her knowledge and her consent.  Once more, for all the required reasons, it is an easy concept to understand. 

No full transparency?  No chance of consent!

20 March 2019

Inside and Outside the Dark Side

Just one more - only once more?  NO!!!!!  NO!!!!! NO!!!!  1001 times.  That is not difficult to understand it means STOP!  Not once more, not one more time.  No more!  Stop using and abusing my soul.  I did not consent.  I did not give it to you.  You do not have that right.    I do not want to live inside the life you want to create for me because you want to imagine you could live my life than better than I do.  I can not exist there because your manifestation of reality can not accommodate me, and instead only obstructs and limits my reality where pure spirit needs to exist unfettered.   I will not consent to being held hostage in your realty.  You do not have the right to create your heaven with my hell as its foundation. 

Does this ring true with you, make sense to you?  If it does then you are likely to be really tired of this tedious "embrace your dark side" advice, after your life has been fully illuminated and you are actually able to recognize the problem of other folks dark sides invading your life - even in some cases recognizing the folks to whom those dark sides belong. 

Do not misunderstand!  “Embrace your dark side!“ is excellent advice.  If you are ready to tackle your own dark side and/or need to be able to put into words of understanding what you are dealing with in your life, or need to know because people in your life are going through it in their lives, then you need to heed the call of those who know about embracing the dark side.  Once you have done the processing work, its presence provides comfort.  But let's not get the cart before the horse because there is a long way to go after starting the journey.

Processing the Dark Side

At issue is the work which needs to be accomplished in processing one’s own dark side without experiencing extensive damage.   But first let me tell you, here and now, that you have the right to say no to anyone wanting to make you responsible for their dark side.  No on else’s dark side is your responsibility.  No one else can do the work of another in their stead, for them - no one.

My life was fully illuminated long, long ago more than once as a child by the time I was 12.  And I gradually learned to do the work of processing my dark side.  That is something that we all do to some extent by simply growing into our own lives.  I went through what, in retrospect, feels like it must have been an initiation which required me, all by my lonesome, to inventory and process all that was within my dark side - tossing out the fragments of unrealized manifestations.  Identifying those fragments was a matter of relegating to the trash heap all the obstructions and limits that interfered with reaching full illumination, again, all on my own - beyond only "the grace of God" (some would say) which had been providing illumination, with a little help from my friends before I was 20, then having  reached a point in life where I knew I  must take primary responsibility for the process, myself.  Once one does that work it is possible to maintain the dark side as the potential it is so that it rests easy and is life giving rather than being life damaging; so that it is possible to manage the dark side in real time when it needs attention.  It is a call that must be responded to immediately - or as soon as possible IF and ONLY IF there is nothing more vital to life which needs attention. 

Does it sound like the dark side is a demanding spoiled child?  Well, if you neglect it, it certainly is experienced in that way.  And if you are abusive to it because of neglect, it certainly is experienced in a much worse way when it has fully grown into a pathological, sadistic, masochistic, Machiavellian narcissistic experience that personifies evil.  I am not exaggerating.  It happens.  And I have experienced the damage that is done by those to whom that has happened.

A Life Long Endeavor

Do not neglect your dark side - ever - once you have gone through that initial journey of clearing it out yourself and becoming fully illuminated as a result.   Don’t misunderstand.  It is not a one time and forever done, task.  It is a life long endeavor. But once you have done major processing work you can relate to your dark side  with love and compassion and absolutely no hostility or dislike - similar to how everyone feels about infants.  We do not neglect the needs of infants.  We care for them with great love.  Similarly, you do not neglect your dark side when it needs your attention, because guaranteed doing so will result in problems developing both in the near and far future - and everywhere in between. 

To be fully realized in life we all have a need to illuminate our lives  by clearing out all the fragments of unmet potential  within our dark sides, so that we are able to maintain it in real time.  That means we then  need to deal with these fragments immediately as they occur, which are associated with issues we are aware of and keep account of, so we can prevent the fragments of obstructed unmet potential from accumulating in the dark side.  Only you can do it.  No one else can do it for you.  Recognize that you owe it to the people in your life, if not yourself, to make life easier for yourselves and everyone else by clearing out and processing the dark side if you have not yet done so;  by keeping up  constantly with real-time dark side housekeeping.

Before I continue I want to make it clear that I am using understandable existent terminology which is used to communicate about these issue.   It is in no way some sort of “hidden agenda” associated with skin color and everyone knows that, of course, except rabble-rousing trouble makers with evil agendas whose dark sides have become fully grown narcissistic problems to all, not only themselves. 

Energy and Its Potential

Speaking of dark and light in this way is about energy and its potential.  Consider that light is like fire but much more intense, destroying all of the manifested trash in one’s life that does not belong to pure spirit.  Consider that dark is like the all embracing dark of night when only the stars are present but with much more intensity, full of potential to manifest all that can be created. 

Consider the universe. Fact is that mass only becomes condensed matter by originating and consolidating in the dark side.  All in existence which is not pure unfettered uncontained energy of light is potential  mass - energy in its most quiet state - like that which fills our well maintained dark sides.  Even so that energy is actively popping into and out of infinitesimal mass, sometime coalescing into stable particles.  Our dark sides are similar. Some particles collect and coalesce as disconnected fragments of trash which we need to process and remove from the dark side of our lives so they do not interfere with our potential to manifest what we need in life.  And the fact is that until and unless we clean it up and clear it out, we can not maintain our lives properly and prevent them from becoming a trash heap which makes our dark sides a problem for us and other people, too. 

When we do not do the work and instead allow our lives to become a trash heap, then it also  attracts the trash of others as well.  So too illuminated lives attract the light of others.  We all exist as light and dark.  We need to know how to understand both, and how to manage what we can, and when to give free reign as needed.  That means knowing oneself well.

Done well, learning to know oneself does not become a narcissistic endeavor like narcissistic abusers want to convince  you and everyone else that it is.  It is your duty and obligation and the reason you are living - the journey that is yours and only yours to take - with the companionship you need, when you need it.  Rumi conveys the obligation to oneself and everyone else that it is:  "I searched for God and found only myself. I searched for myself and found only God." 

Completely Empty It

Although your own dark side is not the problem or responsibility of anyone else, it becomes everyone else’s problem when you do not deal with it but instead try to dump it onto others.  It is absolutely full of potential from which you manifest your needs.  Thing is the only way to do so is to embrace your dark side, so that you can also fully embody the light of pure spirit; so that together they can be used as the potential to  manifest all of creation for everyone as they need it to be.  So empty that bitch out - completely empty it out of all the fragments of obstructed unmet potential that accumulate without real time maintenance, so all that remains is the energy of potential, along with the energy of pure spirit which is created at the inception of life - life which is meant to be a manifestation that transforms the potential of dark energy into all that exists in physical form.

Your dark side is there so you can create your own path in life.  Learn to use your dark side and light side complementarily as they are meant to be used.  In fact they cannot be fully functional one without the other.  It is our work in life to learn how to achieve this balance at any given point in time.

The only problem any of us I have with the dark side in life once we have cleared our own space of all the fragments of efforts to manifest which were obstructed and limited and did not come to fruition, is when people try to superimpose their own fragmented dark sides onto our lives.  We actually do recognize this effort as foreign and do not accept it.   We don't need it, we don't want it.  It is not our responsibility. 

Assistance with Clearing

If other people want assistance with clearing out their dark sides then they need to ask directly rather than hint around about it, or try to manipulate.  Those who can will help in the ways they choose.  If someone can not help then it is damned well better for you to take your fragmented dark side and skedaddle on out of their lives instead of being determined to try to dump it into their lives where it does not belong.  Our own dark sides are not any one else’s  responsibility.  And we have the right to  refuse to continue to put up with the abuse of the dark side of other people which occurs when they have not personally done the clearing work in their own lives necessary so that they can manage their own dark sides.

Yes, you can do it without professional assistance.  And when you do, either because you prefer to, or because no professionals with the needed skills were available when you were at that point in your life, then you develop those skills yourself or die trying.  Note that a lot of people have died trying.  It is not a fools errand.  In fact it actually can be a life and death battle.  Ask anyone who has been addicted if you do not understand, or anyone who has experienced relentless post partum depression for that matter which is very much like unmet addiction.  When you maintain your own dark side properly, instead of employing crisis management which only recognizes when it is past time to handle the problem, then the problems festering in the dark side will pose less danger.  Because,  no doubt about it - the dark side is frought with danger, unless it is well maintained.  But the fact is that depending on inadequate professional help can be akin to choosing death.  It is than that you consider it  might be preferable to bumble along on your own, through trial and error guided by faith alone, which in and of  itself becomes a process of developing the needed skills which lead you to choose life. 

When you have been through the process, the "pros" who were nowhere to be found when you needed them have  no right to repetitively and voyeuristically demand that you dump all that dark side shit onto them, now, long after you processed it  so that it would no longer be an insurmountable  burden in your life.  But here they are waving all their "I know best about everything all the time” credentials in your face, demanding that you exhume that shit so they can inspect it and advise you, long after even the bones of it have returned to dust, and then transformed into pure illumination.   Both the good pros and the bad pros do damage in that way.  The truly evil bad ones, of course, only want to know how much you know about the dark side so they will know in what ways they can try to abuse you without your consent, supposedly without your knowledge.  The good ones will recognize a kindred spirit.  You must learn to feel the energy so you can learn to trust your own judgment.

Develop the Skills

One of the worst crimes a person can commit against others is to dump all the trash their own dark side reveals to them into the lives of others, instead of processing it.  It is mandatory to develop the skills to get rid of the trash and deal with new issues in real time so they do not accumulate and become damaging to oneself or others. 

Yes, not seeing the forest for the trees is a real circumstance particularly when dealing with your own dark side.  That is when talking with others might be of benefit. Those who have done their own clearing work know what you are talking about and there are three ways they might be of assistance.  1) by extending sympathy - I understand and sympathize (but I will not allow you to obstruct my life by dumping that shit into it.  It is yours to deal with so deal with it!).  2) by extending compassion - tell me about it, I think what you are going through is something I have gone through and talking about it might help (but take it with you when you leave because I will not allow you to obstruct my life by dumping that shit into it.  It is yours to deal with so deal with it!) 3) by extending empathy, but only in the ways they are willing to do so, for as long as they are willing to do so which may or may not be useful to you.  When they say “stop, no more” - then get out of their way, and take that shit with you when you leave to go process it yourself. 

Yes, empathy is not always kind because the lives of others are an imposition on it, so if the empathetic deal with your shit in the same ways they deal with their own, then it may be offensive and damaging to you.  Kindness comes first, but if that is not respected then be prepared for worse if you want to demand empathy.  Best to ask for and appreciate merciful compassion if you  would appreciate the insight of another.  Or if you mostly are feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by the work you are doing and just need to know you are not alone in dealing with the problem, then the understanding of sympathy is all that you need and want - simply the acknowledgement of what you are going through and a reminder that someone else is confident you will  find your way through the ordeal and succeed.  

When one is not narcissistic the empathy others are able to extend, only on their terms, is always a blessing for which to be grateful.  The demands in an individual’s life at the time are likely to determine their response to you.  It is your job to know exactly what you want from others if you choose to involve them, and to ask for what you need of an individual if you think that person can assist you as you need to be assisted.  Because, when you are unclear about what you need and demand more of a person then they are able to give at any given time, you are wrong.

Like everyone else, what I know is for me to share, not for anyone else to demand I tell them.  If someone else needs to know more about something they think I or anyone else knows,  or they need the support of others confirming what they know  because they feel alone with the burden of knowing, then I will extend my compassion by sharing what I know after I have conveyed my understanding in the form of sympathy - to first determine, if it is not already clear, whether or not the person has a genuine need or is intent on being a narcissistic abuser.  Likewise if anyone observes a soul in need and can share something to minimize the suffering, then for God’s sake be upfront and direct about it instead of beating around the bush.

No, sharing my own experience and what I know is not a narcissistic guiding of the conversation to myself, the same as it is not for anyone else who is extending compassionate understanding.   Anyone who wants to believe that only wants to transfer the evil in their own life into yours for you to deal with which indicates their own  narcissism.

Taking out the Trash

When someone is dumping their negativity into your life because it has risen to the point of them experiencing it as evil in their own lives, they are "projecting" - projecting their shit onto you as yours. They are trying to force you to experience the negative feelings to which they are addicted because they want a domicile for that evil so they can access it and feed on it at their convenience.  And they will do everything they possibly can to obstruct you from taking out the trash they are dumping into your life, because they want you to keep it for them so they can access it when their addiction drives them to their own unprocessed dark side which they are trying store in your life so they do not have to deal with its evil turmoil.  They are abusive when you say no to their demands.  They can not live with the evil turmoil because they have not processed the fragmented contents of their dark sides, so it does not stop calling to them to do so.  That calling is the addiction they answer to but do nothing to resolve. 

Thus, we have insight into how narcissists are driven by evil, though do not necessarily start out being driven by evil.  Self-neglect is one cause, and in many cases that is due to others having obstructed and limited self-care in our lives when it was imperative that we engage in it.  When that happens, repeatedly, it is truly damaging and it makes one into a scapegoat not only of the individual narcissist who is engaging in the scapegoating, but of other narcissists too which the extreme negativity created, attracts.  In that circumstance, without processing one's own dark side and first ridding it of all that is not one's own, becoming a next generation narcissist might threaten.  Thus we understand  how narcissism is conveyed from one generation to the next until someone says no and chooses to heal and stop passing that buck.
The damage that occurs in life can be immense before one is able to say no, and have no respected instead of punished, at which point it is then possible to start to heal.  And that damage starts as abuse in infancy for some.  However, even without intentional abuse in childhood, we still have damage from it which we need to process, simply because it is necessary to be able to know oneself, to recognize oneself as an individual separate from those with whom one connects, even those with whom we connect in  mutually beneficial and undamaging ways.  Abusers will rarely be able or willing to recognize you as the separate individual you are - distinct from themselves.  Because, they want to claim all the good in you they can see as their own. and claim that all the bad they see in themselves is yours.  It is no exaggeration. 

Surviving Childhood

It has been said that to survive childhood is to have to heal from Stockholm Syndrome.  The irony is that it is probably true, to some extent, for everyone.  Parents are not perfect, but decent people do the best they know how to do, the best they are able.  Evenso everyone needs to revisit how they were raised - how they were programmed while growing up - for the purpose of keeping what works, tossing what does not, and staying on the fence about how to classify some programming while researching it.  It is the process of maturing into a self-supporting independent responsible adult. 

Those who have suffered from intentional abuse have a lot more work to do, work which is much more difficult for them to realize a need for, simply because knowing what to think or do about abuse that occurred, other than ignore it, may not become an issue they are prepared to address until much later in life.  But it will always be there to obstruct, redirect, and limit, and to be used against them by others, until it is addressed.  Those who intentionally abused us will not tell us.  Those who may know about it or suspect it, also may not tell us until or unless we ask them what they may know that we suspect and in some cases recall.   And even then they may resist informing us of what they know or suspect. 

We can and will recall, eventually, even incidents from way back in the fog of time when it is considered technically too early to be able to recall.  Even those of us who are gifted with insight about past lives, may not be gifted with insight about abuse to ourselves in this life until we are able to move beyond the damage we know processing that abuse will do when we recognize it as our own,  having already recognized the damage it is able to do and has done to others.  And we must recognize it so we can do the work necessary to  neutralize it in our own lives.  Even after we fully process our own past abuses  we will find fragments of it from time to time in our dark sides that will fester until we process them.

Recognizing Narcissism

It becomes imperative when processing the dark side that we are able to recognize actual narcissism.   There is a range of it from from narcissistic personality disorder (npd) to full blown narcissism in several forms, configured with other issues like sociopathy, masochism, sadism, and psychopathy.  I am not credentialed to provide detailed information other than what I can relay from experience and observation.  However to be able to fully process one’s dark side it is necessary to learn about the problem for two primary reasons 1) to protect ourselves from others 2) to protect ourselves from developing strong narcissistic tendencies which will cause harm to others. 

Anyone damaged by the narcissism of others will have a difficult time with all the processing that must be done because the amount of processing necessary is directly proportional to the amount of narcissistic damage that has occurred in our lives.  The amount of time that must be dedicate to the process makes one feel very self-centered at times because of having to focus on oneself to be able to heal and move beyond the damage. 

And there will be those in your life who will do all they can to obstruct that process and label you as a narcissist - very possibly because of not having processed their own issues.  Depending on your circumstances in life, especially if you are not in an awake relationship with a significant other, or part of an awake tribe/family/clan - it is a process best done without involving others because there is a plethora of negative emotions in damaging intensities which accompany the process.  Others will actually feel that chaos when you are in contact with one another.  They will not like the energy any more than you do.  And the fact is that you also are not able to take on any additional negative energy without it becoming overwhelming while you are doing that processing. 

There is a space reserved for narcissistic damage in our dark sides because it is damage which requires special handling. We find the narcissistic damage we have experienced and stored in the dark side, to be the total accumulation of fragments which were created from unrealized manifestations associated with our own purposes in life which others actually intentionally obstructed, redirected, and limited because of their ill-intent.  Most of what is otherwise in a cleared and well-maintained dark side primarily consists of our own reactions which do not settle well with us and require objective processing.  Thus when we handle them in real-time as consistently as possible we are able to stop them from accumulating and migrating to the exclusive space where narcissistic fragments collect, and worse consolidate into larger than life monstrous obstructions until we deal with them.

Establishing Boundaries

Let’s say we successfully accomplished and  survived doing the needed work which must be accomplished after we become aware that the dark side was demanding our attention in very negative ways until we did.   We then need to include establishing boundaries as part of the work - learning to establish effective boundaries.  That means we will need to know our own boundaries.  Evenso we will still need to establish individual boundaries with individual people from time to time. 

What is a boundary?  Well, here is one of mine which I have recognized.   I'll be damned if I'm going to agree to babysit the naughty, spoiled, criminal damned dark side of others so they know where it is and can visit it to get their fix without ever going through the process of clearing out their own lives.  No ma’am, no sir.  Won’t do it.  I understand they can not store it themselves, so they want someone else to store it for them.  But, no dice brah, not in my reality.  I don't volunteer for that nonsense, and I do not consent to being used in that way especially without my knowledge, and especially by anyone who has previously used and abused my soul without me consenting, or because  someone who was untrustworthy and evil gave it to an abuser.  That someone would ordinarily be an unfaithful significant other (or spouse), or a parent, or in the case of those who have been abused, the abuser.  We can learn to be kind about communicating our boundaries, but until we find ourselves angry about them having been violated we may not be able to identify them and learn to be kind when we must inform others of them.

When abuse has happened to an infant, then the use and abuse of that soul is often extensive, and even when one processes that and gets past it - that person is occasionally haunted by the dark side of an abuser, though less intensely after having finally processed most of damage that was done.  It is the same for anyone abused as a child.  However, as with any abuse, it may not be fully revealed in one’s life until one is able to survive processing it - which often is much later in life and a long time to suffer from damage that has taken up permanent residence in the dark side and needs to be evicted from it.

So what does this mean in practical terms?  One thing it means is that it is very possible there are a lot of people who are parents but who have not yet processed the abuse they experienced in their lives.  If the literature is correct, and the experiences of others and ourselves more or less demonstrates that it is in these cases, then the same issues will continue to plague us in a variety of ways and forms until we actually do connect with them in our dark sides and process the hell out of them - destroying resistant consolidated fragments and transforming them into pure energy.  Otherwise it could manifest as incompatible irreconcilable differences in a  marriage.  It could manifest as neglect or other abuse of one’s own children in some way or another.  That is reality and also a danger that even without our knowledge leads to conveying ancestral trauma to our own progeny.

The crime of abusing anyone is sadistic narcissistic  psychopathy - and history is replete with evidence that it is deadly.  That includes all abuse from anyone, including abuse that is  based on targeting others because of personal prejudices whatever those prejudices might be.  We deal with the problems of many types of societal prejudices on a daily basis.  The nature of the problem is the same in all abusers no matter their motivation.  Only the targets of abuse are different.  On a large scale it is terrorism.  So think about that for a moment.  It can provide insight for anyone who has not personally experienced evilly intended abuse as a child or an adult. 

Abuse and Terrorism Equate

Abuse is terrorism, intended to be terrorism, and is experienced as terrorism.  Abuse and terrorism equate.  The only difference is the scale - the amount of people targeted at any one time.  Neither always ends in the death of the targeted, but both always end with emotional/psychological damage to those targeted and to those who witness it whether or not there is physical damage - the intent of both being to instill fear as a weapon the terrorist/abuser wants to use as a means of control - even when instilling that fear motivates extreme action to some which may not be hidden from others.  That motivates observers to take action and they do.  It happens in the case of terrorist incidents at the time, where some take heroic action - sometimes at cost of their own lives; also later by addressing the problem societally.   Fact is, and understandably, witnesses to individual abuse do not respond similarly, as frequently.

When it is a child who is targeted it is particularly injurious.  When it is an infant . . . well, that is as pernicious as it gets - the worst of the worst crimes which has the potential to ruin a person's life because it forces one to deal with someone else's dark side so early and for so long that it is experienced as evil, and has the effect of evil.  An infant can simply be overwhelmed with all types of energy in the environment.  But in normal conditions, as long as love predominates, it neutralizes the energy of damaging negativity which could exist when the parents have not fully processed their own dark sides.

Even after one  does figure it out and starts transforming what is possible to transform in the dark side, and sending the evil back from whence it came when it is not possible, then the younger a person is the less others will be able to comprehend the words used in an effort to describe incidents of abuse.  That can be protective for a child in the event a young child asks for help from the abuser.  Even adults  have limited ways to describe what they are going through without being labeled as having mental problems, until they have done their own research and have better learned to articulate and describe the issues and associated problems. 

Various Types of Terminology Lead to Understanding

There are various types of terminology which can be used to convey understanding and to articulate understanding.  They are associated with emotions and psychology, or medical conditions, or religion and philosophy, or spirituality and being ‘woke.  Art, music, and  literature are also replete with creative ways people have conveyed valuable information in the form of their experiences, about these issues.  Sometimes these creative venues ring true with us and first  inform us, as food for thought, of issues about which we need to know more  Then in researching what we need to know we encounter numerous sets of terminology which are used in various fields. 

So if there is a need to seek outside assistance, then it is best to go with the types of terminology that ring true and best describe not only the journey one has been on, but also the journey one envisions into the future - fully healed.  However, we must always be mindful of our choices so they do not create further obstructions for us.  For myself it has always been the spiritual path which has provided the needed guidance and insight as the foundation from which to move forward to embrace parts of the other sets of terminology.  We need to be able to understand the terminology associated with all of these ways of understanding so as not to be victimized by those who intentionally use them to abuse.

If you are involved with a total do-it-yourself processing of your dark side, whether it be by necessity or choice (and we all actually are doing it ourselves whether or not we ask for assistance), then my advice is to read.  Do a lot of reading.  Supplement reading with available videos and audio presentations.  Analyze the lyrics in music that draws your attention too, and understand what is being conveyed from all that you access in relation to the  processing you are doing.  Within the range of sources that can guide - some will be useless to you but not to others.   Other sources  you might attribute to saving your life though they  have little or no similar effect on other folks.  And there are many sources between these two polarities that, as you happen upon them, can all contribute something to assist you in learning what you need to know. 

Sources are available because the most mercifully compassionate people have employed their empathy productively towards that end to guide your way.  Instead of allowing others to dictate and abuse their own empathy they extend what they know they can in that form, from which all are welcome to benefit. Some of the folks are actually credentialed and offer courses, workshops, seminars, individual and group sessions.  What is offered could be exactly what some folks need and prefer as a way to motivate themselves and learn effective ways to deal with their dark sides - to clean the dark side house and empty its closets, clear its garage and extra storage area, and clean up the yard which  all need attention in their dark side.  That is always a good choice because the contacts one makes become one's network and tribe of mutual supporters and it is a deserved source of income for the professionals who are able and willing to show the way with their merciful compassion.

I know for certain that until one processes the dark side, there is often much more misery in life than there is joyful delight and inspiration.  There is also less observed synchronicity until we do the needed processing.  When we are free from the dark side haunting us because we are giving it the maintaining it requires and deserves, then we are freer to take delight in the world around us, freer to be in the moment and enjoy what we are fortunate enough to have in our lives for which we are grateful.  And we find satisfaction in being of service to others.

“I sought my God and my God I couldn't find;
I sought my soul and my soul eluded me;
I sought to serve my brother in his need, and I found all three;
My God, my soul, and thee.”

― William Blake