The insistent people who want to claim ownership and control of others so they can blame them, simply do not have the apparent ability to understand the word "NO", no matter how often and emphatically it is stated. How can such folks be convinced they need to cease and desist from what has become clear is intentional ill-intended active scapegoating? Too often the scapegoating is intended to be fatal to whomever the ill-intended want to target, especially when the intended scapegoat does not cooperate. It is true. The worst of these folks do not "play nice", in reality.
Reporting crimes and demanding those who perpetrate them be prosecuted is a good start, even when those crimes may not yet have escalated past being libel and slander. Escalation will occur because of those who believe the false realities the ill-intended are hard at work trying to create - to avoid taking responsibility for their own words and actions. Sometimes the effort is because individuals do not know the origin of the problem, and feel compelled to blame anyone who could circumstantially be implicated as a potential culprit i.e. "innocent by-stander" or "guilty by association" type of blame.
Whatever the motivation, the crimes of libel and slander will create increasing damage until the targeted entity becomes aware of having been targeted. Sometimes that is not for decades. So of course that creates a problem with reporting the crimes. Sometimes the fatal or near fatal damage it does is not anything that is known by the targeted scapegoat as being associated with past libel and slander - of course to include "harmless gossip"; even "family gossip" which can be some of the most harmful because it almost always requires taking of sides, even creating rifts in families about which a scapegoated person has little or no knowledge.
Words can do a lot worse than cause discomfort for others and oneself. And so many speak carelessly out of anger - in the "monkey see monkey do" mode, or in undeserved immature retributive vengefulness - regardless of age which unfortunately can not always be depended on to minimize immature adolescent type problems and attitudes. To be firm, including with deserved ire delivered as kindly as possible, about refusing unjust blame and putting it back on those who are assigning bogus blame, is not the same. Well intended people ordinarily know the difference even when they do not know enough facts about a situation or an issue - whatever the issue may be - to understand it well.
Those who do the intentional worst damage with words display an ego problem which leads them to believe that pertinent facts about which they are unaware, are irrelevant when those facts interfere with their own "sacred ignorance". And that ignorance, in turn, is often greased with perks from 3rd party would-be abusers; though, if not, ordinarily ignorance has lead to an assumption their own pronouncements are too infallibly accurate to warrant further discussion. Anyone who wants to silence others willing to engage in needed discussion and debate, is almost always afflicted with one or both of these "reasons" associated with sacred ignorance.
I will never accept assigned blame for what I did not say and did not do - never. The ill-intended who play that game are engaging in libel and/or slander. And I will also never assign blame to others, instead, for what I have chosen to say and do - never. To try to do so is a matter of demanding someone else’s sacrifice - a matter of trying to blame those who should not be blamed.
Those who try to put undeserved blame onto others are demanding sacrifice from others.
Sacrificing is actually a highly valued act of loving gift giving. Saying so seems something of an oxymoron because, unless it is an observed action in place and time, many of the sacrifices people actually choose to make are never known by anyone else.
Those who want to take, or manipulatively force another to give, then callously label and discount it as someone else’s sacrifice, commit a crime when they take what they want and label it in that way - as someone else’s sacrifice. That crime deprives people from extending the generosity of gifting what they actually might have otherwise gifted at a time that was right for them when it did not compromise their health - or life sometimes to near fatality.
I would even go so far as to say that anyone who does not actually recognize sacrifice without it being something demanded of someone else, really has no idea what sacrifice means, and can only be identified as a an ill-intended criminal user and abuser of others. Anyone who does not understand this statement very likely is privileged to have never, knowingly, been on the receiving end of endless seeming long-term unwarranted damaging blame. The exception is anyone who has been confronted with unwarranted obstacles and limits in their lives when they are honest people of integrity who intend no harm to others. Such folks perhaps should wonder what unwarranted blame might have been used to attack them - without their knowledge.